Empathic Illnesses: Do You Absorb Other People’s Symptoms?
by Judith Orloff MD
Adaped from The Ecstasy of Surrender: 12 Surprising Ways Letting Go Can Empower Your Life (Harmony Books, 2014)
Empathic illnesses are those in which you manifest symptoms that are not your own. Many patients have come to me labeled “agoraphobic” with panic disorders, chronic depression, fatigue, pain, or mysterious ailments that respond only partially to medications or psychotherapy. Some were nearly housebound or ill for years. They’d all say, “I dread being in crowds. Other people’s anger, stress, and pain drain me, and I need a lot of alone time to refuel my energy.” When I took a close history of all these patients I found that they were what I call “physical empaths:” people whose bodies are so porous they absorb the symptoms of others. I relate because I am one. Physical empaths do not have the defenses that others have to screen things out. As a psychiatrist, knowing this significantly changed how I treated these patients. My job became teaching them to center and protect themselves, set healthy boundaries, and let go of energy they picked up from others.
To determine if you are a physical empath take the following quiz.
Quiz: Am I a Physical Empath?
• Have I been labeled as overly sensitive or a hypochondriac?
• Have I ever sat next to someone who seemed nice but suddenly my eyelids got heavy and I felt like taking a nap?
• Do I feel uneasy, tired, or sick in crowds and avoid them?
• Do I feel someone else’s anxiety or physical pain in my body?
• Do I feel exhausted by angry or hostile people?
• Do I run from doctor to doctor for medical tests, but I’m told “You’re fine.”
• Am I chronically tired or have many unexplained symptoms
• Do I frequently feel overwhelmed by the world and want to stay home?
If you answered “yes” to 1-3 questions you are at least part empath. Responding yes to 4 to5 questions indicates you have moderate degree of physical empathy. 6 to 7 “yeses” indicate you have a high degree of empathy. Eight yeses indicate you are a full blown empath.
Discovering that you are an physical empath can be a revelation. Rest assured: You are not crazy. You are not a malingerer or hypochrondriac. You are not imagining things, though your doctor might treat you like a nuisance. You are a sensitive person with a gift that you must develop and successfully manage.
Strategies to Surrender Toxic Energy
Physical empathy doesn’t have to overwhelm you. Now that I can center myself and refrain from taking on other people’s pain, empathy has made my life more compassionate, insightful, and richer. Here are some secrets to thriving as a physical empath that I’ve learned so that it doesn’t take a toll on my health.
A Survival Guide for Empaths: 9 Strategies To Stop Absorbing Other People’s Illness and Pain (from The Ecstasy of Surrender)
1. Evaluate. First, ask yourself: Is this symptom or emotion mine or someone else’s? It could be both. If the emotion such as fear or anger is yours, gently confront what’s causing it on your own or with professional help. If it’s not yours, try to pinpoint the obvious generator.
2. Move away. When possible, distance yourself by at least twenty feet from the suspected source. See if you feel relief. Don’t err on the side of not wanting to offend strangers. In a public place, don’t hesitate to change seats if you feel a sense of “dis-ease” imposing on you.
3. Know your vulnerable points. Each of us has a body part that is more vulnerable to absorbing others’ stress. Mine is my gut. Scan your body to determine yours. Is it you neck? Do you get sore throats? Headaches? Bladder infections? At the onset of symptoms in these areas, place your palm there and keep sending loving-kindness to that area to soothe discomfort. For longstanding depression or pain, use this method daily to strengthen yourself. It’s comforting and builds a sense of safety and optimism.
4. Surrender to your breath. If you suspect you are picking up someone else’s symptoms, concentrate on your breath for a few minutes. This is centering and connects you to your power.
5. Practice Guerilla Meditation. To counter emotional or physical distress, act fast and meditate for a few minutes. Do this at home, at work, at parties, or conferences. Or, take refuge in the bathroom. If it’s public, close the stall. Meditate there. Calm yourself. Focus on positivity and love.
6. Set healthy limits and boundaries. Control how much time you spend listening to stressful people, and learn to say “no.” Remember, “no” is a complete sentence.
7. Visualize protection around you. Visualize an envelope of white light around your entire body. Or with extremely toxic people, visualize a fierce black jaguar patrolling and protecting your energy field against intruders.
8. Develop X ray vision. The spaces between the vertebrae in your lower back ( lumbar spine) are conducive to eliminating pain from the body. It’s helpful to learn to mindfully direct pain out of these spaces by visualizing it leaving your body. Say goodbye to pain as it blends with the giant energy matrix of life!
9. Take a bath or shower. A quick way to dissolve stress is to immerse yourself in water. My bath is my sanctuary after a busy day. It washes away everything from bus exhaust to long hours of air travel to pesky symptoms I have taken on from others. Soaking in natural mineral springs divinely purifies all that ails.
Keep practicing these strategies. By protecting yourself and your space, you can create a magical safe bubble around you that nurtures you, while simultaneously driving negative people away.. Don’t panic if you occasionally pick up pain or some other nasty symptom. It happens. With strategies I discuss in my book to surrender other people’s symptoms you can have quicker responses to stressful situations. This will make you feel safer, healthier, and your sensitivities can blossom.
Judith Orloff MD is a UCLA psychiatrist, intuitive healer, and NY Times bestselling author. Come celebrate the LA launch of Judith’s new book The Ecstasy of Surrender: 12 Surprising Ways Letting Go Can Empower Your Life April 2 7PM The New York Open Center, NY and April 16 7PM Mystic Journeys Book Store, Venice, CA and April 17 7PM at Vromen’s Book store in Pasadena! For more inspiration and Judith’s workshop schedule check out http://www.drjudithorloff.com
8 Simple Stressbusters
By Henry S. Miller
Author of The Serious Pursuit of Happiness: Everything You Need to Know to Flourish and Thrive
Got stress? Stress is a part of a normal life that you can’t really avoid. The good news? You have more power than you realize to control stress before it prevents you from living the life you want to lead. Here are 8 simple stressbusters to help you:
1. Breathe Slowly and Deeply
Before you react to the next stressful event, first take 3 deep breaths and consciously release each breath slowly. If you have more time, try a relaxation technique, such as meditation or guided imagery, before deciding how to handle the situation.
2. Speak More Slowly
If you feel overwhelmed at any time, deliberately slow down the pace of your speaking. You will appear less anxious and more in control of the situation. Stressed people tend to speak fast and breathlessly. If you slow down, you’ll find you can think more clearly and react more reasonably to stressful situations.
3. Take a Break Outdoors
Take advantage of the healing power of fresh air and sunshine. Just 5 minutes outside on a balcony or terrace can be rejuvenating. If you have more time, 30 minutes of sunshine has proven positive benefits.
4. Check Your Posture
Hold your head and shoulders upright. Avoid slumping or stooping: bad posture leads to muscle tension, pain, and increased stress. If you are behind a desk during the day, avoid repetitive strain injuries and sore muscles by making sure your workspace is ergonomic, and take 5 minutes every hour to walk around or stretch.
5. Drink Plenty of Water and Eat Small, Nutritious Snacks
Fight dehydration and hunger—they can provoke aggressiveness and exacerbate feelings of anxiety and stress. Drink plenty of water always have small and nutritious snacks available on hand, such as fruit, string cheese, or a handful of nuts.
6. Do One Thing Today
Take control of your time. Every day, do at least one simple thing you’ve been putting off: return a phone call, make a doctor’s appointment, or file the paperwork piling up on your desk. Taking care of one nagging responsibility will energize you and improve your attitude! You might even find that completing one task inspires you to move on to the next one. At the end of each day, try planning your schedule for tomorrow using a calendar or day planner that works for you.
7. Reward Yourself after a Stressful Day
At the end of the day, set aside any work concerns, housekeeping issues, or family concerns for at least a few minutes. Allow yourself a brief period of time to fully relax before bedtime each day—even if it’s only taking a relaxing bath or spending 30 minutes with a good book. Remember, you need time to recharge. Don’t spend this time planning tomorrow or doing chores you didn’t get around to during the day. You’ll be much better prepared to face another stressful day if you give yourself a brief reward of some free time.
8. Practice Letting Go
When your next inevitably stressful situation comes up, make a conscious choice not to become upset. Just let it go. Don’t waste your energy on situations where it is not deserved. Managing your anger is a proven stress reducer.
There’s no way to avoid stress, but you can be proactive in managing it. Here’s wishing you a happy life with less stress!
About Henry S. MillerHenry S. Miller is the author of The Serious Pursuit of Happiness: Everything You Need to Know to Flourish and Thrive and Inspiration for the Pursuit of Happiness: Wisdom to Guide your Journey to a Better Life. He is also the creator of the online membership program Get SERIOUS About Your Happiness: 20 Transformational Tools for Turbulent Times. As President of The Henry Miller Group www.millergroup.com, he is a speaker, trainer, and consultant helping organizations improve engagement, performance, and productivity specifically by increasing employee well being. In prior careers, Henry was a Senior Consultant for the Tom Peters Company training and coaching senior management teams worldwide in leadership and his initial career in corporate America was with IBM.
Shungite: Protection, Healing, and Detoxification
by Regina Martino
Book Excerpt: CHAPTER 7
Bioenergetic Research on Shungite
What is the unique property that distinguishes shungite from other protection stones?
I have carried out detailed studies using bioenergetic tests and have personally tested more than 200 stones and crystals that have an influence on the chakras. Among those tested, I made comparative studies of about 20 stones, including shungite, that were able to resonate with the first chakra.
In comparing tests on shungite with tests carried out on other stones of this group, we noticed right away that for stones of the same weight, shungite is the stone that achieves the largest expansion of the vital field, the greatest concentration, and, in a striking way, a significant expansion of the first chakra.
It is quite possible that the presence of fullerenes would explain all of shungite’s qualities:
1. Helping the energetic body correct the influence of left-torsion fields
2. Neutralizing the impact of electromagnetic radiation
3. Opening access to life energy (first chakra)
4. Concentrating the vital field
5. Not taking on negative charges
CORRECTING THE INFLUENCE OF LEFT-TORSION FIELDS
At every moment, our energetic body is continuously informed and influenced by everything around it. It picks up and integrates subtle information from everything that it comes into contact with, whether or not we’re aware of it.
A torsion field, created by the form of an object or by the spin of elementary particles as defined in quantum physics, can have a right rotation (as in DNA) or a left rotation. Research conducted by Russian scientist Vlail Kaznacheyev at the Institute for Clinical and Experimental Medicine at Novosibirsk has demonstrated that right rotation fosters life, whereas a torsion field that has left rotation has a negative effect on cells. Pulsed wave radiation such as Wi-Fi and DECT (Digital Enhanced Cordless Telecommunications) generate left-torsion fields.
The influence of left-torsion fields shifts our vertical axis and totally unbalances our bioenergetic system. Our system tries to rebalance itself, but if the influence is present for long periods it can permanently upset the energetic system and disturb it to the point where it influences the physical plane, giving rise to dysfunction and illness.
When shungite is in direct contact with the physical body or when it is present as a nearby emanation (see the action of spheres or pyramids of shungite in the chapter “Practical Applications”), it helps the energetic body instantaneously correct the shifting of the plane to the left and allows the system as a whole to remain centered. It also allows the individual to be connected to telluric energy and cosmic energy in a natural and positive way.
This property of shungite is its main asset. This is what makes it a stone of protection as well as a stone that accompanies the healing of a number of illnesses.
NEUTRALIZING THE IMPACT OF ELECTROMAGNETIC RADIATION
Another of shungite’s great assets, which mainly accounts for its recent fame, is its ability to protect us from electromagnetic radiation. This radiation is one of the principal sources of left-torsion fields.
The rapid technological development of our society has brought us into contact all day long with a large quantity of sources of harmful radiation, and very often we are quite unaware this is happening. It is clear that we need to find solutions so that humankind can survive its own technology.
Over the past fifteen years, a number of researchers in the field of bioenergy have endeavored to establish systems that would allow individuals to reestablish their equilibrium. However, it has only been recently that the public at large is beginning to be more fully informed about the health problems created by the increase in electromagnetic radiation. A simple, efficient, inexpensive solution is what we need: shungite.
Our research on shungite demonstrated its effectiveness in neutralizing the effects of electric fields, electromagnetic fields, and pulsed electromagnetic fields such as those emitted by home appliances, cordless phones, cell phones, Wi-Fi hot spots, computers–in short, all of the electromagnetic emissions that generally surround us.
We conducted two kinds of experiments: one was to test the different ways the impact of electromagnetic fields on the individual could be corrected and the other was to try to correct the harmful information directly at its source. In both cases we obtained satisfying results with shungite. We provide a complete account of these tests in appendix 1.
The transformative effect of shungite appears essentially at the bioenergetic level: we could say that it transforms left-torsion information into right-torsion information. Although electromagnetic waves are invisible, they have a physical component, and it is this physical component that is picked up by electromagnetic field detectors. When information is modified on a subtler energetic level, the physical information is still picked up by the detection equipment. In other words, shungite does not interfere with the functioning of this equipment. It doesn’t turn off the pulsed waves emitted by a Wi-Fi transmitter, a cordless phone, or a cell phone; it transforms the harmful radiation.
The solution is not to eliminate the radiation but instead to prevent its deleterious impact on our health.
We’re going to illustrate this especially important property of shungite with an example drawn from an experiment carried out recently in Russia. Researchers went to a site where fowl were being raised and for twenty-one days they studied three incubators, each of which contained ninety-eight hen’s eggs. They placed a cell phone in standby mode in the center of the first incubator. The second incubator had another cell phone in standby mode, positioned on a shungite plate. The third incubator was the control and was used in the normal way. At the end of twenty-one days, the control group had a loss rate of 11.2 percent. The incubator with an unprotected cell phone had twenty-one chicks hatch–a rate of loss of 79.42 percent! The incubator with the cell phone that had shungite protection came in with a rate of loss of 10.5 percent. The figures speak for themselves!
7 Senseless Habits to Drop in 2014
by Shawn Anderson
SACRAMENTO, Calif., January 1, 2014 – Motivational speaker and author Shawn Anderson takes the idea of “living a life you love” seriously. With a mission of empowering one million people to lead a more positive and purposeful life, Anderson shares seven senseless habits to let go of in 2014.
Quit hanging out on Facebook.
“Facebook is a fun way to kill time,” Anderson says. “But that’s what it does: it kills time. Time that could be used to create, inspire and build.”
Quit Keeping Up With the Kardashians.
“Filling our heads with unedifying TV doesn’t do a lot to help us achieve a better life,” Anderson comments. “Instead, exchange an hour of TV time to build your own dream rather than a celebrity’s dream.”
Quit staying up late.
“The surest way to be unmotivated on a Monday is to stay up late on a Sunday. Want to feel energized? Watch a few more sunrises.”
Quit spending money you don’t have.
“Having the freedom to do what you want in life starts with not being chained down by financial obligations. Give your credit card a rest.”
Quit working at a job you hate.
“Nothing saps the life out of you more than working at a job you hate. Find something else.”
Quit hanging out with negative people.
“If you have people in your life who drain you of all that is positive, ask yourself ‘Why in the world are they even in my life?’”
Quit pointing fingers.
“Take a massive leap forward and take responsibility for where you are in your life. It’s not your boss’s fault…or your spouse’s…or the government’s that you’re not where you want to be. It’s your own cause-and-effect decisions that have you sitting where you are.”
“Why would we ever want to live a life that makes us unhappy?” Anderson says. “We read everywhere about what we need to do to be successful. But I believe if we just change a few of our habits, we’d be much closer to leading a life we love.” Anderson continues, “Sure some of the seven items on the list may sound harsh, but if we don’t stop doing them, the lousy results we will produce later will feel a lot harsher.”
The author of six books, including A Better Life: An Inspiring Story About Starting Over and Extra Mile America: Stories of Inspiration, Possibility and Purpose, Anderson is also the Founder of “Extra Mile Day.” On November 1, 2013, 444 cities in all 50 states made the declaration to recognize the capacity we each have to create positive change for ourselves, families, organizations and communities when we “go the extra mile.”
For more information about Shawn Anderson, go to www.ShawnAnderson.com. To contact Anderson directly, email Shawn@ShawnAnderson.com.
How Roland Rolls
by Jim Carrey
JIM CARREY’S NEW CHILDREN’S BOOKENCHANTS, ENTERTAINS … INSPIRES!
“Through the loving attention of parents, children gain self-worth.Through the innocence of children, parents rediscover the wonders of life.”Jim Carrey
LOS ANGELES, CA – Award-winning actor/artist Jim Carrey is breaking new ground, for himself and his audience. The winner of two Golden Globe awards — Best Actor for Man on the Moon and The Truman Show – he was also nominated for a Best Actor Golden Globe for his critically acclaimed performance in Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind. Carrey will self-publish his first children’s book, How Roland Rolls (Some Kind of Garden Media, 2013) on September 24th. An enhanced e-book will be released at the same time, along with a four-song EP. They’re available wherever books and e-books are sold, as well as the How Roland Rolls website, www.howrolandrolls.com. The EP is also available through iTunes. All the major booksellers are enthusiastically embracing the book.
According to Carrey, “It’s a story about a wave named Roland who’s afraid that, one day, when he hits the beach, his life will be over. But when he gets deep, he’s struck by the notion that he’s not just a wave — he’s the whole big, wide ocean! It shows humanity’s interconnectedness through the metaphor of a wave in the ocean.”
There’s a personal story behind the book …
“When I was a child,” Carrey shares, “my parents were smokers and I had a deep fear that they would pass … and then what would happen to me? I think that’s a common fear for children – the fear of loss. It’s an early existential crisis, if you will. But when we realize that beneath the surface of things – the activities of our lives — we are all connected, all one energy, that fear of loss gets softened. At times, it disappears entirely. At least that’s been true for me.” How did Roland the Wave emerge as a character for Carrey? “Years ago,” he recalls, “when I first arrived in Los Angeles, I spent a lot of time on the beach in Malibu, watching the waves. I started to think of them as people, all moving in the same direction, and contemplated about where they go once they hit the beach and lose their form. Each wave travels all around the world. The first drop of water ever is still here now! That’s pretty profound stuff. I found that fascinating and comforting, and thought children could find that same comfort.”
As a parent, and now a grandparent, Carrey reflects on the time he spent reading to his daughter, Jane. “I believe the closest we get to heaven in this world is when we get completely involved in something we love. One of those moments is when we read to our children. It’s total freedom from self, from our worries and problems. We always feel terrific afterwards, and so do the kids. For them, it’s an experience of focused, enveloping love.”
Carrey believes that “everything we do that’s hurtful stems from a feeling of not being worthwhile, not feeling loved. Parents help their children feel worthwhile by being completely involved, spending moments together that are only about them. Through the loving attention of parents, children gain self-worth. Through the innocence of children, parents rediscover the wonders of life.”
Why write a story for children? “First,” Carrey notes, “I’ve always been drawn to work geared for children. That’s what attracted me to the Grinch, Horton Hears a Who, and Mr. Popper’s Penguins. Story is important to all of us. It’s how we order life the way we’d like it to be. Stories stimulate faith and hope.
“Through stories we make our children feel secure, and that good conquers evil. All the characters in a story are parts of ourselves, of course, so through stories we gain self-knowledge. We are inspired to embody heroic archetypes. We learn how to not let worries ruin our lives — how to make that brave move into the unknown, then find that we’re usually pleasantly surprised by the outcome.”
Just like Roland, Carrey had big dreams and goals as a child. At a very young age, he wrote poetry and even tried to get his poetry books published. “I learned pretty quickly that, in the publishing business, there was virtually no market for poetry written by an eight-year old. But, hey, I kept ‘rollin’!
“I’m just telling a story,” says Jim. “Kids don’t get credit for their deeper thoughts, beyond simple play … for their efforts to figure out life. I hope Roland will help guide them along their way.”
Carrey has appeared in 33 feature length films, is one of the most successful actors in Hollywood and known for his humanitarian efforts. For more information on How Roland Rolls, and to order the book, visit www.howrolandrolls.com.
The energetic Keys to Indigo Kids
EXCERPT FROM CHAPTER 1
by Maureen Dawn Healy
“Indigos are all already aware they are different.”—Nancy Tappe
Indigos are “highly sensitive with a warrior personality,” explained Doreen Virtue, author of The Care and Feeding of Indigo Children, in the documentary The Indigo Evolution. I wholeheartedly agree. Indigo kids are unique in the fact that they hold two opposing qualities simultaneously: high sensitivity and fierceness. So they are extremely sensitive like the “highly sensitive children,” as defined by Elaine Aron in her book, The Highly Sensitive Child, but what differentiates them is their personality. I prefer to use the concept of “the indigo personality” to capture their shared characteristics, such as:
- Are highly creative.
- Are extremely energetic.
- Are gifted in certain areas (for example, mathematical genius, poor reading skills).
- Have a need for fairness.
- Prize honesty (almost above all else).
- Feel equal to authority.
- Hate rules.
- Refuse to do certain things.
- Want special treatment.
- Are strong-willed.
- Waver between grandiosity and low self-esteem.
- May be prone to depression.
- Have high sensitivity (sounds, smells, touch, sights).
- Have sharpened intuition.
- Don’t respond to authoritative parenting.
- Have built-in BS detector (immediately know dishonesty).
- Tend to leave things incomplete.
- Cannot be rushed.
- May have fetish (for example, only wants to wear princess dresses).
- Like playing alone (unless with other indigos).
- Get “hooked” on things and can’t let go.
- Are independent at times, clingy at other times.
- Seek meaningful friendships.
Understanding the core characteristics of the indigo personality is very empowering. You no longer feel alone. Having worked with thousands of indigos, I can say that these attributes animate themselves differently in children but the indigo short summary is this:
- High sensitivity.
- Giftedness (in one area).
- Incredible creativity.
- Strong energy of defiance.
- Inner motivation.
- Intuitive intelligence (very high!).
When I was told early on that I beat to my own drummer I took it in stride. Now, I realize that I was merely beating to an indigo drum—which is unique, unusual to the mainstream, and deeply powerful as a force for change. Indigos see, feel, and experience life differently than their more mainstream counterparts. They tend to have an unusually high level of creativity, sensitivity, giftedness, and angry energy to channel.
This angry or warrior energy that defines many indigos isn’t a bad thing. It is the energy that breaks down broken systems (think: public school systems) and creates better ways of doing things. Of course, the challenge is to raise indigo kids to use their incredibly sensitive, highly responsive, and fierce energy as force for good.
Parenting indigos, especially if you aren’t “indigo-like,” can be a real challenge. Over the years, I have had countless clients come to me because one parent was indigo-ish and the other thought his or her child was just given to them by Martians. They just didn’t get it. Usually it started out like: “What is going on with my child? She’s as sweet as pie one moment, and then next it’s a full-blown tantrum.”
So I usually had parents detail the itty-bitty things of their parent-child interaction, and I served as the bridge to translate from indigo to adult. Then, they’d have an “a-ha” and say, “Oh my—that’s what was going on.” As soon as you know the energetic triggers of indigos you can stop bumping into them unknowingly and experiencing such upset all around.
One of my first Los Angeles child clients was a 5-year-old named Jamal. His mom, Lisa, contacted me because she discovered Jamal was actually highly sensitive. One instance stood out for her.
Jamal was attending a private kindergarten in Los Angeles, and he was the only African American in his grade. One school project was to bring in a baby photo and post it on the wall, where all the kids got to guess “who’s who.” Jamal knew this wasn’t going to work out for him. Jamal is very observant and aware of life, including his ethnicity, and that this was an unfair game. He told his teachers. Mrs. Smith, his main teacher, said she would work on making it fair. So she printed out famous baby photos of African Americans and decided to add them to the game. On the day of this game, all Jamal’s peers picked him out first and he got really upset. Jamal began crying and left the classroom, refusing to return. He said, “Mom, tell everyone it’s not fair and that’s why I am so upset.”
Jamal was clear from the beginning he disliked this game, felt unheard, and had a sense that it wasn’t going to work for him. His teacher, from her “older perspective,” couldn’t really understand how to create an effective solution. Ultimately, Jamal got triggered by the unfairness of this situation and couldn’t contain his emotions. Indigos as a whole cannot ignore their emotions but must learn effective outlets for them. Jamal fits the indigo profile to a “T,” with his high sensitivity, strong emotions, and warrior energy standing up for what he saw as an injustice. He refused to go back into that classroom and Lisa picked him up.
Unique to Indigos
Unique to indigos are their mindset and nuanced way of being in the world. Some of these characteristics are minor, and, well, others—they are big ones. I am going to share some of them here, and we’ll continue to unwrap them throughout the chapters. I begin with the one that impacted Jamal: Indigos cannot ignore their emotions.
Indigos cannot suppress their feelings. Other generations and types of children can easily ignore someone’s comments, push down their hurt feelings, and learn how to move throughout the world without feeling a thing. This isn’t possible for an indigo (exception: if they are medicated). Indigo kids are divinely designed to feel their feelings and let them out. This is where most parents struggle the most. They are unsure of what emotionally is occurring with their children and especially in the early years when crying seems to be an everyday occurrence.
Indigos will always let you know how they feel. They may cry, scream, and talk back to you until they learn better ways of channeling their energy—but one thing is for sure: Your indigo child isn’t burying his or her emotions. One other thing that Jamal highlights for me is this: Indigos primary intelligence is intuitive.
Indigos trust themselves. They know when something is right and will stand up for what they believe in time and time again. It’s this indigo energy that will change many of our broken systems of government, education, and healthcare, for example, into something better. It’s not to say that indigos aren’t highly intelligent in the traditional sense, but they do follow their intuitive urges primarily.
Intuitive intelligence is information gained through insight. It is that “feeling” to turn right and then you bump into your best friend. Indigos have a sharpened sense of intuition and reliance upon it. Actually, everyone is intuitive when they are born, but indigos aren’t able to easily “shut it off” the way many other people can. It is their primary mode of information gathering and what they trust the most.
Jamal was governed by his intuitive intelligence when he walked out of his classroom. He trusted his inner knowingness. It was this inner wisdom coupled with his need for honesty that upset him so much. Said simply:Indigos need integrity.
Indigo kids have a built in dishonesty detector. They know if someone isn’t honest and cannot bear it. It doesn’t matter if the “dishonest party” is their principal or parents; it just simply goes against the grain of who they are. So they stand their ground and “call out” whoever is being dishonest—like what Jamal did regarding that game.
Collectively indigos have come to shift the consciousness on the planet from dishonesty to honesty. They are Truth teachers. Sometimes this means challenging authorities and doing things differently. Jamal just couldn’t pretend the game was okay and “fit in” with the other children he needed to stand up for Truth.
One sunny afternoon in December, I got a call from a distressed dad. Glenn said to me, “I just realized my son, Sam, is a highly sensitive boy. I read your article on Psychology Today, and he fits the profile to a T. He also has been bullied in school and is hurt beyond words. Sam’s upset not only by his bully, but all his supposed ‘friends’ that stood by and did nothing. He refuses to return to school and has made the scariest statement to us. Sam said, ‘I will kill myself if you take me back to that school,’ and that’s why I am calling you. What do I do?”
Sam’s story isn’t a unique one. Over the years, I have gotten countless calls from parents whose children have mentioned suicide. I take every call seriously. With that said, I calmed Glenn down to realize his son was safe and we needed to keep him safe. That was priority number one, as well as getting him proper assistance with his incredibly deep emotions and learning new skills for how to handle them.
Glenn was quiet and realized that his son was safe. I supported his and his wife, Meg’s, decision to take Sam out of school. He never fit into his new school and had been struggling socially from the very start. Academically, Sam is actually quite gifted, scoring at a 12th-grade reading level in fifth grade and slightly below grade level in mathematics. This giftedness in one area and deficiency in another is also common among indigos; they are patterned for a unique purpose that isn’t represented by traditional schooling systems.
It was fortunate that Glenn and Meg could take Sam out of his school and provide him a personalized educational program. Obviously, this isn’t what every family could do, but there are always answers; sometimes we just need to get really creative to surface them. Then I also helped Sam personally as Meg and Sam came to visit me for a three-day intensive program where I taught Sam to:
- Manage his emotions.
- Think differently.
- Speak respectfully.
- Connect healthfully with others.
- Make “smart” choices.
One more compliant that Glenn and Meg had was that Sam sassed them. Indigos have no problem standing up for themselves, speaking their Truth, and letting their emotions out. As I mentioned earlier: Indigos must express their emotions. One of our big roles as parents and guides to indigos is to help them express their emotions (energy in motion) in ways that are skillful versus damaging.
Over the following few months, I continued to provide support to Sam on Skype as he learned how to manage his high sensitivity better. I also helped Meg and Glenn see Sam’s perspective on a number of common indigo challenges, such as: Why does my son play alone most of the time? Do we force him to play baseball? Is a gifted program good for him; he already walks around like royalty? Do we just let him refuse to do certain things? Are we enabling him? Punishment doesn’t seem to work; what is going on?
CREATING YOUR PERSONAL ALTAR
By Sonia Choquette
To genuinely tune in to your Spirit and feel its guiding force, it’s important to make it a central part of your life—something you want to turn to automatically without pause or hesitation. One way to help you achieve this is by creating a personal altar in your home and sitting quietly in front of it every day for a few minutes (preferably during peaceful moments in the morning).
There is no right or wrong way to set up an altar—just follow your intuition. What you create should reflect your deepest, most genuine Self. An altar is meant to be a visual reminder for you to go within through prayer, meditation, contemplation, song, or intuitive listening. Set up your altar as a place where you can anchor your attention inward, detach from the outer world for a moment, and instead tune in to the subtle forces of love and guidance arising in your heart. Your altar serves as a place that helps center your awareness on your inner voice and the guiding flow of love and support flowing from Divine Source to your Higher Self and on to you.
An altar is far more than a beautiful “thing” to look at. It is an active doorway to your beautiful guiding Spirit in many profound ways. Sitting at your altar trains your conscious and subconscious mind to let go of familiar mental patterns (which have habitually controlled you) and tune you in to the subtler, more loving, au- thentic frequency of Spirit. When you sit in prayer or meditation in front of your altar, you’re teaching your mind to relax and surrender to the higher power of the Spirit within.
Altars also serve as energetic portals, or openings, to the realm of Spirit. When you enter the sacred energy surrounding an active altar, the veil between the worlds thins and the heavens open up. If you consistently hold the intention of connecting with your Spirit as you sit at your altar, you’ll be “spirited away” into a beautiful higher realm. At first, the shift may be so subtle that you hardly notice the changes through your senses, but with repeated visits, your perception of this heightened vibrational frequency will become stronger. And no matter what you may be thinking about when approaching your altar, your mind will quickly be- come calm, quiet, and clear as you settle before it; and your heart will open as your vibration shifts to one of pure loving-kindness.
With daily practice, you’ll actually feel yourself entering this sacred opening to the spirit realm the moment you approach your altar; it feels very similar to what you might experience when you approach an altar in a church, temple, or other holy place. If you haven’t felt this or don’t think you’re energetically sensitive enough to feel it, be patient. Sitting for a few minutes each day in the energy of your personal altar will heighten your awareness, and you’ll start to feel this higher vibration. Also, the more you sit in prayer or meditation before your personal altar, the more the energy itself builds.
The shift in vibration around your altar is strengthened by regular, intentional acts of meditation, prayer, song, chant, and contemplation. If there’s no holy inner work going on, the vibration of Spirit won’t be present and the portal won’t open. It will simply be something pretty to look at, but it won’t possess Divinelife force. Therefore, I encourage you to create your altar with holy intention, reverence, and enthusiasm.
Where to Place Your Altar
Making room in your home for an altar might not seem like the easiest thing to do, especially if you live in tight quarters, but with a little creativity, it’s not difficult. Ideally, you may want to set up your altar in a room that’s not used every day, such as a spare bedroom or dining room, or simply clear a small area in any room. A personal altar doesn’t require a lot of space—that’s not the point. It can be one square foot in size and still open up a tremendous portal if it was created by your heartfelt devotion, love, and intention to connect to your Spirit. I know one woman who shared a two-bedroom apartment with six people, so space was at a premium. She created a small altar on a Kleenex tissue, and no one touched it. If the Spirit is willing, the way is made easy.
My personal altar is in my bedroom. I set it up on a small table in front of the window, and it’s one of the first things I see every morning. I love it and always start my day there. It emotes a powerful healing force, enabling me to become grounded and centered on what is important. As I sit at my altar I feel God’s love surrounding me. My husband, Patrick, created his own altar in his office on a tall, slim stand. His altar is very different from mine and reflects who he is, which is exactly what it should do. So know that you can certainly have more than one altar in your home. Each family member can set up his or her own unique space—and I believe that everyone should! It’s an easy and meaningful way to create a private, sacred portal between you and your Divine Spirit.
What to Place on Your Altar
What you put on your altar is of great importance, as each item must speak directly to a significant part of your inner being and Spirit. Choose whatever energetically resonates with you and touches your heart. For a lot of people, this may mean including a picture of a spiritual figure, such as Mother Mary, Jesus, an Ascended Master Teacher, the Buddha, Krishna, Vishnu, Kali, or the Dalai Lama. Select images or things that really move you in some inner way—those that you feel hold meaning for you at this time. From time to time you may want to change what is on your altar— replacing old items with new ones as your outward life and inner landscape change. The key to creating a powerful altar is feeling. So in addition to using images of holy or inspirational figures, also include photos of the people you love, such as your family, friends, and even your pets.
You may also feel inspired to place images and totems from nature, such as seashells, stones, animal bones, or feathers on your altar, as these may carry meaning for your Spirit. You might be drawn to placing beautiful living things on your altar, such as fresh-cut flowers, fresh herbs and spices, or a bowl of clean water that’s changed daily to symbolize the holy waters of our loving Mother-Father God, the Source of All Life. Your options are limitless. Be creative, use your imagination, tune in to your intuition, and know that anything goes, as long as it holds meaning for you.
Another way to enhance your altar and make it an ever more powerful one is by adding some natural crystals, especially quartz. Often dismissed by energetically insensitive people as “silly New Age trinkets,” crystals are, in fact, extremely powerful living energy tools that can cut negative cords, remove unhealthy energetic attachments, clear energy fields, and amplify your personal intentions. They’re essential in many fields today, including technology and medicine; valued for their power and precision; and work with subtle realms of energy in profound ways as well.
Other wonderful objects to place on your altar are bird feathers, which also seem to somehow suddenly find their way to you once you decide to procure one. Feathers are universal symbols of Spirit and represent the Divine Self in flight. All living things, particularly birds, sense when you’re in the process of transforma-tion or elevating your personal vibration as you return to personal power and will show support by offering up their feathers. So pay attention as you move through the day, and don’t be surprised if a feather finds you.
Bells, chimes, and rattles are other powerful tools to place on your altar, as they serve to call out to the Divine for guidance and support. Sacred hand drums are also potent tools for connecting with your Spirit and can be placed near your altar for use in connecting with your guiding light. Using these items actually calls your powerful Spirit forward, which is why they’ve been incorporated into almost all spiritual ceremonies throughout the ages.
Sonia Choquette is a world-renowned author, storyteller, vibrational healer, and six-sensory spiritual teacher in international demand for her guidance, wisdom, and capacity to heal the soul. She is the author of the New York Times bestseller The Answer Is Simple … among other books; as well as numerous audio programs and card decks and published in over 30 countries. Sonia was educated at the University of Denver and the Sorbonne in Paris, and holds a Ph.D. in metaphysics from the American Institute of Holistic Theology. She resides with her family in Chicago. www.soniachoquette.com
The preceding excerpt is adapted from the new book Tune In: Let Your Intuition Guide You To Fulfillment and Flow by Sonia Choquette. Published by Hay House ©2013 (Available Sept. 9, 2013) and available at all bookstores or online at: www.hayhouse.com.
By Henry Seltzer
The Astrology of November features an eclipse plus Mercury, Venus, Chiron, Uranus, Neptune and Pluto. Mercury of course is in full-on retrograde as the month begins, stationing to direct motion on Sunday the 10th and only escaping its retrograde shadow on the 27th. Most of the month will therefore represent a time of missed connections and mechanical breakdown, where you might have to do the thing three times to get it right. This is an excellent opportunity to turn inward, to journal, and to experience your authentic self.
The Uranus-Pluto square is very much with us as well, being exact on November 1st in an extremely volatile configuration that includes retrograde Mercury in conjunction with the Sun, so that we are at one peak of the entire retrograde period. Both the Sun in its forming eclipse and Mercury are in close aspect with Chiron, Pluto and Uranus, with Mars is opposite Chiron and trine Pluto. The implication is that we will start off the month of November with a bang not a whimper… or perhaps with both at once.
The Solar Eclipse and New Moon taking place on Sunday, November 3rd, is kind of a big deal, with this same configuration highlighted by the eclipse degree which is in turn in close conjunction with Saturn as well. Meanwhile Mercury has slipped a couple more degrees backward and is conjunct the nodal axis. Since the energy of an eclipse lasts longer, for as much as six months, we are in for a very intense end-of-year period. It is quite significant to note that the Uranus-Pluto square, coming up for yet another exact hit in the spring, on April 21st, is triggered by the November 25th Last Quarter Moon and the December 2nd New Moon, as well as by the chart for the New Year. A tough early going for 2014 is definitely presaged, and this puts quite an interesting spin on the next dates for economic policy show-down on Capitol Hill, which are January 15th and February 7th. It is also increasingly obvious that major changes in political realities in this country and for the world in general are vitally necessary for the health of the planet and for ourselves.
It is interesting to note that Neptune is also highlighted in recent lunations, and comes up again as Mercury stations on the 10th in exact trine to Neptune, and with the Last Quarter Moon of the week of Thanksgiving, taking place on November 25th. Neptune in its own sign of Pisces represents a necessary turning to the spiritual side; this is an otherworldly dimension of higher reality that is also a confusing side as far as business as usual is concerned.
Alongside the collective changes that we can all see coming down, there are personal ones that are perhaps even more urgent, and that we can witness in the development of in our own individual lives. These, too, peak over this intense season between the ending of one climactic year and the early going of the next. Uranus and Pluto have a total of seven exact hits of their square, with the after-effects lasting until very nearly the end of the decade. These next two, counting the current month of November and April, 2014, are the fourth and fifth, and in some ways the most intense of the lot of them. We are all caught up in the fires of transformation, exploring the places in our lives where we are stuck in some dysfunctional way. And these stuck places, while they must indeed eventually yield in favor of our continued spiritual evolution, do not yield gracefully.
Only consciousness provides a way forward, so that we owe it to ourselves to be as aware as possible, as consistently as possible, for the sake of our children’s children, and for ourselves.
ARIES (March 20-April 19). This is a wild month for you, Aries. Everything in your life has turned topsy-turvy, and yet with a secret purpose; a special form of enlightenment that involves concrete action toward inner goals rather than outer. Your approach to the world of business and career is in deep transformation, that is true, but the secret to what might be called winning is that you deeply tune in to every nuance of what your soul is trying to tell you. This does not necessarily lead to success in the eyes of the world, but it is the key to unlocking your own sense of inner happiness, which in turn will lead you through to where you really need to go. What follows is that you will eventually get everything that you truly want.
TAURUS (April 20-May 19). Your world is still transforming, Taurus, and you along with it. The pace of change even accelerates as the year winds down, and you find yourself going all out for understanding. Partnership with significant persons in your life is more important than ever this month, as you reexamine its foundations with yourself. You are puzzling over both where your life is currently leading you and also what has engendered the pain of the separation you may feel, as you move forward into your more authentic self. When you examine your own hidden motivations you discover the true gold of your circumstance, involving relationship with important others in a new way, and an unfolding sense of new levels of self-acceptance. The reward is ultimately in the journey, and in the realizations that it brings.
GEMINI (May 20-June 20). This is a strange and wonderful monthly cycle for you, Gemini. The meditative period of the Mercury retrograde is quite special, and for your sign in particular. You have entered into a thoughtful period of time and when the end of the month rolls around, could find that you know yourself just a bit better as a result of your recent musings. There is a focus on soul-purpose that is as remarkable as it is productive of fresh insights. You have an unusually high degree of service-orientation now as well, so that, along with the prayer of St. Francis, you might be willing to state: “Grant that I may not so much seek to be consoled, as to console; to be understood, as to understand; to be loved as to love.”
CANCER (June 21-July 20) All your systems are go, Cancer, as you continue forging ahead to the inside. With the impetus of the Mercury retrograde in your sector of self-expression, the creativity that you unleash will naturally be more of an internal affair. Your inner perspective informs and underlies all that you see and do. Meditation and journaling opportunities are recommended. You are transforming mightily in your self-concept and in the way that you see yourself going forward into a new world, in terms of career, for yourself personally, and as this relates to more global considerations. Your evolving partnership dynamic is also a potent focus for you now. Fears may still come up but with a philosophically viable approach they decline in their importance, and in their former power to derail you from your soul intention.
LEO (July 21-Aug. 21) This is a powerful month of realizations, Leo, and also in some ways a confusing time as well. You are being pulled to the inside, in a form of meditative trance or dream, and it is difficult for you to imagine how to react or if any conceivable reaction is appropriate. A multiplicity of realities keeps swimming into your view, as though you were suspended above a deep-sea garden with many and varied fishes and alternately immersed. The picture that emerges when you reflect might simply be too vast to accommodate with your logical mind; and yet, still you try. Exhilaration, trepidation and transformation are all part of the mix, as well as release from fears in favor of basic movement forward, one foot ahead of the other, into a brand new universe of your own contrivance.
VIRGO (Aug. 21-Sept. 21) This month is another that will test your soul, Virgo, but in a good way. As you navigate the inner fires of these powerful days you have the opportunity to burn off all that is not truly serving you. Your exploration of your own hidden places continues. The dramatic transformation of your creative output over this year has been productive of new insights, and now these very realizations take you into new directions. With Mercury in retrograde motion over the first ten days of this month, everything is stop and go. A contemplative stance takes you further along the path of your spiritual evolution than a strictly outer orientation. The fun comes from discovering what treasure you will be able bring with you as you rise back up to the surface.
LIBRA (Sept. 22-Oct. 22) This is an amazing month for you, Libra, a continuation of the series of deep changes that you have been encountering all year long. As you head toward year’s end, the cosmic tugs on your consciousness become if anything more extreme. This is transformation from the very base of your being outward, and it involves a new mandate for others in your life as well as for yourself. Family and home will never be the same. Thoughtful reflection provides more profound seeing for issues such as material versus spiritual reward. You are, through it all, making your move to the inside, there to discover both pain and joy. The pain can be the stimulus for process. Others provide inspiration but in the end, you have got to be the one to light your own fire.
SCORPIO (Oct. 23-Nov. 21) This is a season of deep work, Scorpio, but the rewards are correspondingly weighted. Some painful places inside yourself are being exposed to the light of a more conscious understanding. It helps to remember that any difficulties that you may encounter along the way are there for the surmounting of them. You are engaged in a tremendous learning curve, based on forging better communications with others around you, leading you into new mental and emotional territory. There are concepts that you are ready to abandon, making room for the new. Your very self-definition is a moving target now, a kaleidoscope of wonder. You are also finding inspiration in ordinary day-to-day routines which, when you look at it right, become suddenly charged with meaning. In the simplest of things, you might find intimations of life purpose.
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 20) This is another in a series of intense monthly cycles for you, Sagittarius. The good news is that you are in many ways more ready for it that you were even a few short months ago. It has been a trying year, and as it comes to the end, perhaps even more so, but the silver lining is in increased self-knowledge applying to the deeper layers of your being, and in a better understanding of others as well as yourself. Many areas of your life are currently affected, including your creative self-expression, which is sizzling and transformatively oriented, but the most significant progress is happening on the inside. Your dreams could be quite active now, and definitely worth writing down. Inner and outer are but two sides of the same coin and the one informs the other.
CAPRICORN (Dec. 21-Jan. 19) This is a magical month for you, Capricorn, in some ways the culmination of a transformative year of change. With the New Moon and Solar Eclipse taking place in your sector of goals and societal involvement, you are networking like mad and placing your bets on a more positive future than has been the recent past. This involves partnership with others, and a re-orientation of values, family life, and even your concept of personal identity. With Mercury retrograding through this same sector you could be massively re-thinking how your operate in the world and where you are heading, so that it pays to wait until at least the second half of November before making any drastic moves. Still you can plan, and dream, intending to refine your vision still further toward month’s end.
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 17) This is a season of change for you Aquarius, as you take on the world around you in an entirely new way. You have been mulling over your approach to outer world performance since Mercury turned to retrograde motion in your sector of career and professional life, over the final ten days of October. You are finding that spiritual goals eclipse material ones in allowing you to arrive at an internal accord within yourself. Equally present are questions about finance and how to gather your resources to prepare for achievement in a way that does not violate your principles. Communication with others around you is one key to the puzzle, and is productive of a series of unexpected revelations over the course of this month that will help to see you through.
PISCES (Feb. 18-March 19) This is an amazing month for you, Pisces, full of what could be construed as trials, and yet, when you look beyond the difficulties, replete with progress of an unusual kind. A powerful eclipse early in November takes place in your higher mind sector, leading to starting new conclusions of an interior variety. You are in any case looking within, in a symbolic chime to the retrograde of Mercury through this same sector. Old habitual patterns that you are more than ready to move beyond could also arise for the healing. While painful places within you are revealed, a startling series of epiphanies opens inner doorways in a way that more than compensates. In spite of all appearances to the contrary, the world is what you make of it.
Henry Seltzer, transformational astrologer and creator of the TimePassages astrology software, is based in Santa Cruz, California. An extended look at this month’s star signs and a variety of astrology reports are available on his website. Henry also offers life enhancing private astrological counseling. Call him at 831-425-3686, or visit his website at www.astrograph.com.
We are living in an unprecedented time of change, a new epoch with a new consciousness. We have reached Zero Point in our personal and collective consciousness and are now in a phase of accelerated conscious evolution and manifestation of personal and collective vision. As the current political, economic, and social systems begin to collapse, people are instinctively and intuitively reevaluating their lives and asking what has real meaning and value and what brings them true peace and happiness. Humanity is now poised to establish a unified, co-creative new world that reflects the evolved consciousness of awakened hearts and minds, of collaboration, and of peace.
Presenting a guide for these auspicious times, Nicolya Christi offers psychological and spiritual tools to accelerate conscious and global evolution and initiate a New Consciousness for the post-December 21st, 2012, epoch. She gives an in-depth overview of religion and spirituality, both the old paradigm and the evolving new one, and explains how all trauma results from “empathic disconnection,” which hinders our spiritual growth. She provides spiritual practices to manifest a meaningful connection between Self and God/Source/Creator as well as psychological exercises to heal and integrate the shadow self and dissolve psychological wounds. She offers the first fully written account of the First Nations Peoples’ oral wisdom teachings on the 7 Dark, 7 Light, and 7 Rainbow Arrows for evolving consciousness. She also writes in depth about the evolution of relationship and aspiring to a higher love and sexuality.
Detailing several maps and models for conscious and global evolution, this handbook inspires each of us toward a consciously evolving spirituality and a true and authentic relationship with God/Source/Creator.
Making a Shift in Consciousness
By Sonia Choquette
Thankfully, these days more and more people are committed to living a spiritually empowered, authentically grounded, intuitively guided, positive, and peaceful life. We’re generally becoming much more willing to accept the idea that we are spiritual beings who create our own reality and aren’t simply victims of circumstance, as evidenced by a huge surge of interest in such things as quantum physics and mind-body medicine. We’re more willing to explore and discuss our rich inner lives and our ever-expanding intuitive experiences. And yet, in spite of these encouraging signs, we’re still suffering with, and causing some of, the worst personal and worldwide violence and earthly destruction that humankind has ever known.
Incidents of suicide and drug addiction have spiraled out of control, for example. The environment is under siege. Our relationships with each other (and among nations) are blasting apart, sometimes tragically with guns and weapons. So even though the idea of spiritual awakening and personal empowerment sounds appealing and even possible, the actual shift in consciousness most of us need to make in order to go from victim of circumstance to Divine co-creator has yet to occur for most of us. We all must take a big step forward—if not an actual leap—to jump-start the transformation that everyone speaks of and desires . . . and the world so desperately needs. Our inner peace contributes to the world’s peace.
A life where we believe that we aren’t making a meaningful contribution feels like a life wasted. People in this state tend to find negative ways to distract themselves and deaden the emptiness they experience. Whether this leads to destructive behaviors or emotions, frequent accidents or illnesses, career stalls or chronic unemployment, or outbursts of rage or social withdrawal, soon the problem becomes other peoples’ problem as well. All paths are interwoven—we are connected to one another, and one person’s misery eventually affects everyone else. Therefore, not only is tuning in to our inner guidance an essential personal need, it’s also a profoundly important familial and social need.
Listening to the voice of your intuition—instead of the voice of your fears and other peoples’ wishes and instructions—will bring about, over time, a deep-seated, unwavering sense of profound integrity, creative inspiration, and grounded soul purpose. Tuning in to and following your intuition relaxes your mind, puts your body at ease, and opens your heart because you eliminate inner conflict as you become more at one with your Spirit, your true Self. Following your Spirit brings about an inner sense of peace, eliminates distraction, and helps you be more open. With such a big load off your shoulders, you can begin to fine-tune your awareness and expand your creativity, gaining a more graceful, fulfilling, and productive rhythm in your life. With your Spirit firmly at the helm, you flow with the deepest, most authentic truth of your being and experience each day as God designed and intended you to experience it: perfect, beautiful, connected, and filled with joy. Because you’re aligned with your true Self, you feel less and less compelled to seek approval or self-worth in how others view you. You stop feeling out of sync with yourself, and that’s a huge relief.
In following your intuition and trusting your Spirit, not only do you feel uplifted, but you also uplift everyone you come in contact with. Because we are sentient beings and are affected by one another’s energy, others will sense your genuine ease and consequently relax more in your company. Many of the typical challenges you might expect, such as experiencing others as overly cautious or suspicious, will seem to suddenly ease, replaced with more heart-to-heart, creative, trusting, and positive connections. Guided by your intuition, your Spirit opens your eyes to new perspectives, reveals new opportunities, and showers you with synchronistic moments that bring a sense of certain magic into your life. Even those people who have been habitually difficult to deal with, such as set-in-their-ways family members or hardened bosses, won’t trouble you as much, as your intuition also often brings with it more objectivity, deeper insight, and better understanding of others. You become more compassionate, recognizing others’ negative behavior as a symptom of having lost touch with their inner voice, their Spirit, so it’s easier not to take their unpleasant or obnoxious behavior personally. In fact, often those who are not in the habit of being easygoing will change their behavior when in your company because your personal vibration is generally so positive they can’t help but start to entrain with it. With your Spirit guiding, you will feel lighter and clearer, and your world will brighten up. You will start to really love yourself and your life, and that’s the best reward of all.
Honoring our inner voice and allowing our Spirit to lead is the inevitable choice we must all eventually make if we hope to live together in peace. Choosing otherwise keeps us battling our own fears and battling others. This choice hurts us, each other, and our planet. Those who refuse for whatever reason to surrender to their intuition, their heart, and their Spirit will continue to suffer, to struggle, and to miss out on the joys of life. Like a battery running out of power, unless we stop fighting and start trusting our Spirit for guidance, our limited ego energy will dwindle and die. I feel confident that sooner rather than later we will all come to realize the limitations of the ego, and accept the power that lies within our Spirit because that is the purpose of our soul’s journey on Earth.
Reaching for this book on a shelf or having it fall into your hands in some other way is a strong indication that, on a deep level, you’re ready to start living in greater alignment with your authentic Self. Maybe this is your first step toward that end. Maybe you’ve already taken steps along the path toward living your life this way. No matter what got you to this page, deciding to allow your intuition to lead the way will soon have you leaving fear behind and enjoying the bounty and joy that come with living in flow.
Sonia Choquette is a world-renowned author, storyteller, vibrational healer, and six-sensory spiritual teacher in international demand for her guidance, wisdom, and capacity to heal the soul. She is the author of the New York Times bestseller The Answer Is Simple … among other books; as well as numerous audio programs and card decks and published in over 30 countries. Sonia was educated at the University of Denver and the Sorbonne in Paris, and holds a Ph.D. in metaphysics from the American Institute of Holistic Theology. She resides with her family in Chicago. www.soniachoquette.com